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How to live with your friends without hurting your relationships

  • February 15, 2013

How to live with your friends without hurting your relationships

Living with your friends seems like a fun idea, especially if you're moving out of state and worry about meeting new people. The advantages are clear when it comes to sharing a residence with your pals - you trust them, and they're reliable and fun. Unfortunately, the dynamics of your relationship change when you're all under one roof. Apartment Ratings writes that friends can quickly become enemies when they live together. The reasons people once cared for one another turn into characteristics that everyone loathes. 

Don't let your best friend turn into your worst enemy because you live together. Follow these tips so your relationship will stay intact. 

Divide the bills early
Money Crashers recommends dividing bills equally as soon as possible. You and your friends can either split the monthly totals or assign expenses to different roommates. Don't wait to decide how you'll handle bills - choose a financial strategy the minute your household moving company unloads all of your boxes.

Friends frequently argue over bills, especially if one housemate consistently misses payments. If someone isn't on stable fiscal footing, he or she should tell their friends early and offer to cover every bill once they solve their money woes. 

Spend time apart
Togetherness is great, but everyone needs some time to themselves. When buddies become roommates, it is easy to become attached at the hip and spend every waking moment together. Eventually, this can become annoying and lead to arguments when frustrations boil over. 

Don't feel obligated to socialize with your roommates all the time. Make plans with other friends or your significant other and enjoy your time apart. If your roommates want to tag along, explain that you need to be alone for some time and would appreciate if they can respect your space. 

Address problems quickly
Many friendships end in shared living spaces because people are afraid to air their grievances. Instead of addressing problems, roommates let problems simmer to avoid hurting their friends' feelings. Ultimately, a small annoyance pushes one person over the edge and a massive argument ensues that irrevocably damages the friendship. 

Scholarships.com writes you should address problems openly. Speak with your friend and explain why you're upset. Avoid passive aggressive tactics like writing mean notes or complaining on Facebook to your other friends. The direct approach is the best when it comes to keeping the peace. 

 

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