Moving in with a boyfriend or girlfriend is an important step in any relationship. And although it is often a joyous occasion, it is also accompanied with anxiety and fear. This is especially the case if you are moving out of state to be with your partner. Adding a long distance move to the process of sharing a home can be a tumultuous process, but there are ways to smooth it.
Here are a few things to consider - and a few pitfalls to avoid - if you are moving in with your significant other.
One of the most common sources of strife is a differing of opinions about what the move means. Will patterns change? Does it alter the expectations of where the relationship is headed? Taking the time to discuss explicitly what you and your partner expect the move will mean can help clear the air before it's too late.
"When they move in with someone, many assume things will carry on as usual," Charlotte Beaumont-Field, Wellbeing Manager of Reach Out program, told Woman's Day. "But often one partner expects things to change."
Of course, living with your boyfriend or girlfriend is much different than living alone. The difference between schedules is amplified, sleep can be interrupted and personal space is impinged upon. Without preparation, these changes can be a lot to deal with.
One way to minimize these disturbances is to have a "grace period." If possible, having both of you keep your living spaces for a short period can provide a safety net. If the move is a long distance one, it might be a good idea to try living together before calling the household moving company for the final move.
Either way, it is important to maintain open lines of communication as well as external friends and specified "date nights" to make sure that there is not too much emphasis placed on the disruption of personal routines.
If the various emotional changes that might occur weren't enough, there are also financial implications to consider. Combining insurances, drafting a cohabitation contract and looking for ways to save on expenses are all important steps to discuss before moving in, according to Love Money. Although these can seem like drudgery, making time to talk about financial matters can help prevent arguments later on.
Because there is sure to be a lot of stress to deal with at the beginning of this important step, it is probably wise to make the move itself as calm as possible. Hiring professional out of state movers to manage the relocation can help you focus on besting the other obstacles.